It is Valentine’s Day tomorrow! A day that we mostly associate with lots of red, love, romantic dinners or lunches, flowers, chocolate and beautifully written cards and notes to and from loved ones. As a singleton going on her second year as a resident of Single-ville, I can say that this will be just another working day for me. Am I sad about it? Nope! I entered Single-ville on a stretcher after having my heart broken into a million pieces. I have decided to use this “recovery period” to pour love into myself because I have learnt that there is no kind of love quite like self-love. Having been drained by a bad breakup, this was a very important thing for me to learn and do. Of course, it would be nice to receive flowers and my favourite chocolate, but that’s not happening so I decided a long time ago that I wouldn’t feel sorry for myself, instead, I’ll focus on pouring my time, love and focus into re-energising myself. How do I achieve this? It starts with kindness; because often we are our own biggest critics. I’m being a lot kinder to myself and making it a habit to treat myself better, more often. It’s called self-care. Self-care doesn’t mean that I’m frequenting the spa every two weeks (even though I’d love to), it means that I’m doing the following more often:
All these changes haven’t been easy or something that just happened overnight. In fact, these are parts of my life that are a constant work in progress that I am happy to be working on every day. I believe that me being emotionally, physically and spiritually full means that I can now pour love into other things and loved ones. Traditionally, February is the month of love and Valentine’s Day is a day of love (both represent love that is perceived as “romance between two people”), but if you’re single like me this doesn’t mean that you can’t celebrate in your own special way. This also doesn’t mean that no one wants to be with you, or that you’re undesirable, it just means that it’s just not the time, yet.
Flowers and chocolate welcome at:
61 Barkston Drive